What do you think

Sooo it the last two weeks i had

a new BF (whom ive dated multiple times
my kid bday
my bday
doubled work hours

the the boyfriend in question does not have a job, is not going to school, has no ambition, and says a whole lot of "im gonna..."

we broke up.
but not cause hes a lazy bum.

but because he cheated.
im not totally innocent either but ill get to it in just a moment

SO on my birthday my girly friends planned a night (get drunk, go to the lions den, go to a strip club) ive been to a strip club so i tweaked the plans (get drunk, pick up a friend who lives near the lions den, go to coyotes) we a DD before anyone gets worried lol

this all went well. then came closing time. it me and 4 girls and 2 of then had found this semi cute guy and wanted to kidnap him. so we did. lol it was pretty funny. till we were headed home. to the place where i stay with a commited married couple. we were worried how the hubby would react. he was surprisingly okay with it.

so we all went inside for more drinks. and 2 of my friends decided we should play spin the bottle. (im not one for the game but if it makes the friends happy who gave me 20 bucks to buy a new toy ill do it) so we did. i ended up seriously making out with my close friend we had picked up and later cuddled in bed.

we played around a little but it was her time of the month and she relativly new with girls so it was more of a learning experience. i had fun she had fun and in the morning no one was hurt or upset.

so i spent the day recuperating (im a baby about drinking if i can lol) i stayed home and play vid games. my bf finally gets ahold of me at like 5 pm (he doesnt have a phone) and is like what are you doing blah blah ill come see you later. so at 3 am he shows up. i told him we pick up my friend and skimmed the fact we played spin the bottle (he got super jealous about her, i didnt wanna deal with him knowing i ended up shirt less and kissed everyone in the house.)

before i continue, when we started this relaitionship i told him i wanted to be polyamorous, or at least let me find a dom or a top. im bisexual and im a bottom. hes not the strong and cant be that person. i also do truly like girls. or rather certain girls. (i like certain people, not certain parts) he said okay and we have been discussing it with no real solution other than he thinks i just wanna fuck everyone. Sigh

the next day i went to work and got off and went to his house to stay. he left with my coworker/friend who organized the party. said he was going up to grandveiw to see some friends. i stayed at his moms house and played vid games. later i get a text saying he got a hickey from my friends, friends husband. im like okay w/e and went to bed.

so yesterday i got up and went to court and went to the house and then went to work. my coworker/friend came in and told me about the night. real mild story and i said cool and i asked her if tht absolutley what went on, incase he tried to lead me on to maje me jealous. she said yes and went to help a customer. bout 10 min later she comes back and says she feel uncomfortable lieing. i said okay then dont lie. she told me her and my bf had sex. i shrugged and told i kinda guessed it.

she tells me that he told her about me and him having lists of people we could have sex with and we didnt have to tell the other person. she sounded like she was gonna cry and i told her i wasnt mad at her. hes a liar and hes good at it. hes been screwing me around for years.

So i got off work an went to his friend house. i asked him how was his night and he looked like a deer caught in headlights. i was like i heard it was ALOT of fun. and he got all smug. i was like since you like other twat so much you can go have as much as you want cause were over. i was all smiles. "what? lets talk about this" "nope"
i got in the car with my roomate he opened the door "i dont know what your talking about" he said it like 4 times loudly and clearly. i said yes you do and im done. "your acting crazy and shes a liar" "sure she is" 'your the one who didnt want monogamy" "whoring around is not what i wanted either" he slammed he door so i locked the door and put on my seat belt. He grabbed the door yelling "unlock the door or ill break the window" i told my friend "go ahead and drive" he punched the door "drive faster :)" "stop and talk to you fucking cunt"

he then proceeded to call my phone like 7-8 times and text me saying he was going to call my job and get me fired.

So my question is.

How do i avoid these kinds of guys?

Thank you for reading