relationships

i keep seeing these... awful relaitionships, and all i can think is...why didnt any one tell them they shouldnt be a couple. i mean why cant people tell other people whats wrong in their relaitionship with out it being a explosion of nonsense. dont people know that dating is a way to test if you cant stand that person? going steady with some one is a promise to test only them. not a promise to stay with them forever.

the differences.

friends - they hang out. do stuff and do their own thing. they might not talk every day or every week. but they know the other person a good bit.

Best friends - talk shit on each other and know WAYYYY to much about the other person. usualy seem to talk about everyday. may have has awkward intimate moments but relized they arent meant to date and such. some instances seem, to beable to work sex into their relationship. this is for experts only. no for the feint of heart.

Talking to someone - this is from when you first meet someone till you decide your gonna be exclusive. you text talk and share personal things. relationships usually form in two branches. sexual and long term. the questions asked in this timeframe. if they are mostly sexual the relationship will most likely be forming into a sexual relaitionship. if the question are more about you as a person and about your thoughts then it will more than likely be forming in to a more long term relaitionship.

Going steady/Dating- In most relationships this is when you decided to be exclusive. to only be romatic and sexual with each other. this is when you learn more about the other person. their inner workings, about their family, about their childhood. how they handle pressure, how they like certain things. sometimes this stage goes on for a long time. sometimes the couple realize they will not work and the end the relationship before anyone gets hurt or angry. but sometime this stage goes on for a long time because the couple are unwilling to breakup dispite clearly not getting along. they are comfortable in their arguments and daily activities. it not really a healthy relationship and sometimes the couple doesnt realize it. spending to long in this stage can be boring for some and they will cheat and cause problems to either end the relationship or to make excitement in the relationship. some spend too little time here and move on to moving in or getting married before they really know each other. it can make for a terrible coupling if you know nothing about the other person.

Living together- it a step up from dating and a notch down from married. you share bills and space. you see this person nearly 24/7 this can be a good test of if you really like each other. and a test of your communication skills. if you can tell the other person your thoughts and feelings how will they know if there is an issue. living together is an important step before getting married. some dont do it and it works out. some realize the day after they got married it was a terrible idea.

Marriage - it the biggest step you can really take. your making a oath to a person and to a god and government that you love someone so much you want to file taxes with them. and if you dont work out you wanna split your stuff in half. yeah i killed it a bit. but i dont think marriage should be treated like a joke. im not a religious person so i wont go one about offending god. but i find it morally wrong to marry someone if you dont truly want to be with them forever. im not saying you cant. and im not saying i wouldnt do it. but marriage was meant to bind 2 people forever. or gain money from a bride's parent depending on your region.

i think knowing where you are in a relationship helps you know where to go next. if you lost how can you know where your going?

why do terrible couples stay together?

WHY DO YOU DO IT TERRIBLE COUPLES???

ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

parents, honor them?

should you honor parents that do nothing but make you do what you want them to? parents who don't realize they are actually raising an adult. parents who don't realize how crippling their love is. and it not their love that is crippling it their conditional love. "i will only love you if your perfect" "i will only love you if you do what i couldn't" "i will only love you if you do what i say" they never say it like that but when you think about it and lay it flat out, thats what it is. CONDITIONAL LOVE. <This phrase is unjust and unfair and just wrong. how can you tell some one you wont love them if they act themselves?

one more small post

ugh i have to stop spamming posts...

but i did want to write something pony related since my picture is a pony

my favorite pony is pinkie pie.

we have much in common and when left alone we both get a little loony.

i love the things she says and her logic.

<3

my bestie love rarity. and it fits her rather well. XD

i think everyone can like their own pony if they want....





but pinkie is best pony

HEY YOU OUT THERE!!!

Hey you! yeah you the one reading my posts...who are you ? do i know you ?>???

like...i know someone is reading my posts... but whom????

so weird to throw stuff out in cyber space and hope for the best...

haha

its like....

just weird.

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i have ads now.

if you have an ad blocker it wont matter to you.

but i was thinking that MAYBE if i get really good a writing MAYBE ill get enough traffic for it to make a difference.

but i doubt it

XD

oh well heres to hoping

also.

i have started crocheting a blanket for my kiddo. YAY!!!!

4 am post. why not

Hello out there.

i hope this becomes popular. but...i dont know what i would do if it did. lol

i may need suggestions on topics...haha

thank you to those who have read this so far.

i dont have much on my mind right now.

my friend was supposed to come over...

but he didnt. i think he fell asleep.

silly goose.

i worked things out with my roommate. yay for that.

lol

that guy... the update.

HAHAHAHA

omg i cant eve believe i was....emerged in the quagmire of disaster for as long as i was. i mean...wow...

i was never lieing and i was never fake. but damn your just whiney and all down on your self. i cant spend all day fanning your overly sensitive ego. i have mine to fan.

i really did like him. but he like no one and nothing. he finds nothing enjoyable in this world except the beer he drowns himself in.

it just...a slow depressing way to die. its not living. its just a terribly slow suicide. too weak to deal with life and to scared to end it.

sorry just my opinion on it.

dont come to me telling me "i have to drink other wise (insert stupid bullshit here)" yeah no. i have dealt with ALOT ALOT ALOT of things. and i dont drink much. only socialy and if kiddo is in bed and if i dont work the next day. and its usually planned days in advance.
but yeah.

just weak people. ugh. disgust me.

i come out as irritation but its just digust.
like my coworkers. its a motley crew of people.

but as far as i can tell they have all been through something.
real life stuff.

like one of them has had 3 lifetimes of stuff happen to her.
and you know what? she comes to work. and she smiles. and she listens to my crap and tells me what she would do. when i found out her story i felt really bad for whining to her.

but she kinda inspires me that what happens today does not have to affect me tomorrow, even if i make terrible mistakes and bad choices. i can recover. one way or another.

you can always overcome.

true story...bro.